As a wedding photographer, I am lucky enough to witness one of the happiest days in peoples’ lives. And, it didn’t hit me, I mean really sink in, until this morning that the Lord uses the metaphor of his church and and Himself in scripture to demonstrate romance. Ok, I realized He used the metaphor, but I don’t think I ever really understood it since it is odd to think that God wants to romance us (His people). But, after reading chapter 7 in Captivating, I have a better understanding and it was amazing to put everything together.
Romance is such a fun idea, right? We are supposed to enjoy it but not expect it. Because, let’s face it… life is not like every Nicholas Sparks movie. It’s just not reality. But the best part of romance is not all the cheese (even though my favorite scene is usually the grand gesture at the end of a romantic comedy). Well, romance is NOT supposed to be just an idea. Romance is, by definition, the feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love. What is it that brings out the romance in us?
“Cut off from love, rejected, no one pursuing her, something in a woman wilts like a flower no one waters anymore. She withers into resignation, duty, and shame… But this same woman, whom everyone thought was rather plain and unengaging, becomes lovely and inviting when she is pursued. Her heart begins to come alive, come to the surface, and her countenance becomes radiant”
When we are pursued, we become more alive. Now, it’s easy to picture this in marriage, and that’s exactly how we should be looking at the Lord. He is romancing us. He wants us to glorify Him, to spend time with Him, and to pursue Him. But he doesn’t do this without pursuing us to. See, Christianity is a relationship. I can’t tell you how many times I hear people say they don’t like organized religion. And, that’s fine. But, Christianity is a God pursuing us, blessing us, romancing us.
“God’s version of flowers and chocolates and candlelight dinners comes in the form of sunsets and falling stars, moonlight on lakes and cricket symphonies; warm wind, swaying trees, lush gardens, and fierce devotion.”
How many times have you looked at the sky, only to leave you with questions about the creator? How many times have you seen the beautiful Spring flowers and thought how creative the Lord is? Just from looking at the world we are left with mystery. From seeing the things God does in our lives, we are excited with the possibilities of what He may do next. This is romance by the very definition.
Why does he pursue us? He wants us to obey, but why would God want us to just check off the yes and nos. To do what’s right just because. No, he wants our souls to crave righteousness and to do what is good and holy in His sight because we love him.
“Faithful obedience to God is vital, but it is not all God draws us to. It is not sufficient for our healing, no more than doing the laundry is sufficient for a marriage. And, it will not be enough in the long run to carry us through.”
Simply completely our tasks is not what God wants. He wants a relationship.
“Yes, yes, he wants your obedience, but only when it flows out of a heart filled with love for him. ‘Whoever has my commands and obeys them, he is the one who loves me’ John 14:21”
So, basically all of this to say that I truly believe watching the love between a bride and groom mirrors the love of Christ. I’ve never fully seen this perspective. Obviously love is only one aspect of a relationship, but it is a beautiful foundation that can hold together a lifetime together. Romance fosters true love, and true love overcomes it all.
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